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Q: Dr. Danoff, what kinds of penises do women prefer?
A: This is probably the single most significant penis question on the minds of all the men with whom I have talked over the years. In my many years of urologic practice, I have had thousands of conversations with women about the most intimate details of their sex lives. They have told me things they have related to no other person, including their most esoteric sexual practices and wildest fantasies. For the most part, women do not ever seriously express to me a strong preference for one kind of penis over another.
Although some women have told me that they do have a definite preference as to size or shape, the overwhelming majority of women I have interviewed have confessed that length, width, appearance, and complexion are all factors that do not seem to matter in a long-term relationship, even to the women who describe in detail the specific kinds of chests, legs, and behinds that excite them in their mates.
Penis size is not as significant as most men believe it to be because the penis is not the only body part that can be used to stimulate and satisfy a partner. Whether or not penis size is an issue for you as a man or an issue within a sexual relationship, as a superpotent man, you must learn to use your hands, lips, tongue, or any other device that can aid in stimulating your partner.
Q: Dr. Danoff, I’ve seen the late-night commercials and ads in men’s magazines and online but have wondered, is there really a way to make my penis any larger?
A: The answer is unequivocally no! Many men come to me with questions about a variety of “enlarging” procedures known collectively as phalloplasty. Surgeons have and are using a number of techniques, including skin grafts (known as dermal matrix grafts), in an attempt to increase the girth of the penis. These procedures, as well as a lengthening technique that increases penis length by severing the suspensory ligaments, are falsely represented as legitimate ways to increase the size of the penis. I cannot emphasize to my patients enough that phalloplasty and lengthening procedures are both inventions of hucksters, charlatans, and fakes. Not only are they ineffective, they are also highly risky. The idea that men need to have huge penises is a cultural myth perpetuated more by men than by women. There is hardly a man alive who does not dream of a bigger penis. Be assured there is no medically or surgically effective way of doing this safely at the present time. To believe otherwise is to subject your penis to gross disfigurement.
Q: Someone once told me that if I have sex a lot, I can damage my penis. Is that true?
A: The chances of injuring your penis are miniscule, no matter how vigorously you exercise it. Nature has designed your penis to be tough, resilient, and durable. It can take much more of a thrashing than most other appendages. Try twisting your ear or bending a finger the way you can bend your penis. It can even stand getting whacked around more than most organs, although I suggest that you take my word on that and not experiment on your own.
If you still have doubts, you should look to your own experience for validation: how many men have you known who have injured their penises compared to those who have damaged their hands, arms, feet, or legs? If you can recall any man complaining of a penis injury, chances are it had to do with the skin. The skin is the most vulnerable part of the penis. It can suffer abrasions, cuts, and bruises, but these occur more often from accidents. Getting your penis stuck in a zipper is the most common cause of injury, rather than ordinary sexual activity. The most frequent sex-related injury is skin irritation caused by excessive friction. This kind of irritation keeps more men from having sex than any other injury and is why one of my colleagues believes that “lubricants have saved more marriages than Dear Abby.” It is also possible to bruise the glans (the head of the penis) by thrusting against a woman’s pubic bone or other hard body part. Again, traumatic injuries are more often caused by something other than ordinary sex.
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