7 Ways to Kick Monotony out of Monogamy

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You have been married for twenty years and love your partner. These days, however, you can’t seem to “get in the mood” as fast as you used to. Don’t worry: after a long time of togetherness, it’s not unusual for the passion to cool. Dr. Danoff explains what mice, chickens, and Calvin Coolidge have to do with this common situation and offers seven tips that will help you and your partner keep the spark alive.

7 Ways to Kick Monotony out of Monogamy

One of the most common complaints older couples have about their love life has to do with the boredom that can arise between long-term partners. It is true: routine can sometimes set in after a while. The thrill of taking off a partner’s clothes is not so thrilling when you have unveiled the same body hundreds of times and you’ve seen it naked every day of your life.

If your partner of twenty-plus years says she “wants you,” it is not quite as exciting as having the same words whispered into your ear by someone you just met.


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Dudley Seth Danoff, MD, FACS, is a diplomate of the American Board of Urology and a fellow of the American College of Surgeons. Born in Brooklyn, New York, Dr. Danoff is a graduate of Princeton University, summa cum laude and Phi Beta Kappa. He received his medical degree at Yale University with honors. He completed his urologic surgical training and fellowship at Columbia University Presbyterian Medical Center in New York City. Following his training, he served as a major in the United States Air Force Medical Corps. For more than a quarter century, Dr. Danoff taught on the clinical faculty of UCLA School of Medicine. Currently, he is attending urologic surgeon at Cedars-Sinai Medical Center in Los Angeles. He is the founder and president of the prestigious Cedars-Sinai Medical Center Tower Urology Medical Group, the leading urologic practice serving the Southern California community for over thirty years. Dr. Danoff and his wife, Israeli singer Hedva Amrani, are longtime residents of Beverly Hills, California, and have two children: Aurele Danoff, an attorney, and Doran Danoff, a composer.


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